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Is Negative Thinking Scaring Off Your Soul Mates? |
by:
Dorothy Thompson |
Francine Bonnecelli* swore off relationships the day her husband of nine years left her for a twenty-something barmaid in San Francisco. Even though this was her third marriage, she felt three was the charm and, after all, he showed all the qualities in a soul mate and a marriage partner that no one had ever shown her. After this traumatic experience, she closed off her heart to future relationships, giving up on the theory that you can find THE ONE who meets all your goals and expectations.
Jennifer Quigley*, fresh out of college, had enough of her share of “flings” and was ready for that someone special to enter her life. However, after every date ended up in the bedroom, she vowed that she was going to give up dating altogether. “It’s just not worth it,” she said. “There just are no more good guys left. I’d rather stay home with my cat or go out with friends.”
Joseph Freemont* married his childhood sweetheart fresh out of high school. After graduation, they married and one and a half years later, became the proud parents of a strapping baby boy they named Michael. Two years later, another child joined their family and then a year later, the third child was born. Joseph was a good father as well as a good husband, delighting his wife with anything her heart desired. He laughed at his good luck and never took advantage of the situation by treating every day with his family as if it were the first. Twenty years to the day they married, Joseph lost his wife to terminal cancer. He grieved to the point where he could not come to grips with her passing and decided from that day forward he would never look at another woman again.
What do these three people have in common?
They have all given up on looking for their soul mates altogether and have closed off that path of their journey which is necessary for total self-growth and finding their higher selves.
While they have entered a comfort zone inside themselves to ward off the pain, they have closed it to whatever soul mates who might enter their lives in the future. When they put up this shield, they have also cut off a very necessary part of their life’s journey.
And why is this bad?
The reason is that, unknowingly, they have severed an important and vital part of their well-being. They have retreated within themselves to the point where finding love has no meaning anymore. And, in so doing, they have opened themselves to the prospects of getting stress-related diseases and losing what zest they have left in their lives.
In the case of Joseph, grieving is a natural process and one that should be completed before he even thinks about carrying on another relationship. If he were to jump right into a relationship, without going through the entire healing process, only disastrous results would occur.
However, in time, Joseph will heal and he will start to feel those old feelings of having someone to share his life with. Whether he acts on these impulses, it all depends on whether he is comfortable within himself to do so. This will take a lot of time for Joseph to come to this point, but he has to realize that shielding himself from his other soul mates is not going to help him heal.
By allowing these soul mates to enter his life, he will realize for what reason his deceased wife came into his life and left so abruptly. It’s all a learning process and one in which Joseph needs to enter in order for him to release the negativity he is bestowing on himself in the name of grief.
Francine and Jennifer are merely products of bad relationships. Both figure what’s the point? Until they release this negative thinking, they will bring this baggage into whatever future relationships that may be in stow for them and it will be a pattern they will continue until they realize that this negative thinking is what is preventing them from finding their true soul mates and finding the happiness they are looking for.
Baggage from past relationships shouldn’t hinder you from giving up on finding your soul mate. Once you understand that they all served purposes towards your self-growth – even the bad ones – and you can work through the karma associated with it, you’re that much closer to finding your higher self. It’s your higher self where you find the life, the creativity and the love you deserve.
*names have been changed
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About Dorothy Thompson
Author and soul mate expert Dorothy Thompson is a one of the nation’s leading authority on soul mates. Her book "Romancing the Soul" and ebook "How to Find and Keep Your Soul Mate" are one of the most comprehensive guides to explaining what soul mates are really all about. Dorothy’s relationship columns have appeared in publications in the U.S. and abroad and has been quoted in such books as “Mean Girls Grown Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid-to-Bees” by Cheryl Dellasega. She is a popular radio media guest, appearing on such shows as Lifetime Radio, Around2It, and Cuzin Eddie Show with Penny Sansevieri and will appear on Single Talk (World Talk Radio) and 850 KOA-AM (Clear Channel Radio with listeners in 38 states, Canada and Mexico) and other media outlets.
To receive a FREE special report on “Ten Tips in Identifying Your Soul Mate,” or to learn more about Dorothy's columns or books, visit her personal website at www.dorothythompson.net or her soul mate advice website at www.soulmateadvice.homestead.com.
©Dorothy Thompson, Author and Relationship Expert – www.dorothythompson.net
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Author and soul mate expert Dorothy Thompson is a one of the nation’s leading authority on soul mates. Her book "Romancing the Soul" and ebook "How to Find and KeepYour Soul Mate" are one of the most comprehensive guides to explaining what soul mates are really all about. Dorothy’s relationship columns have appeared in publications in the U.S. and abroad. She is a popular radio media guest, appearing on such shows as Lifetime Radio, 850 KOA-AM, Cuzin Eddie Show, Single Talk (World Talk Radio) and other radio talk shows.
To receive a FREE special report on “Ten Tips in Identifying Your Soul Mate," sign up for her newsletter by visiting www.soulmateadvice.homestead.com or her personal website at www.dorothythompson.net.
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